In the journey of recovery, there are moments that feel like insurmountable walls. You might find yourself saying, “I can’t do this,” or “I’ll never be good at that.” But what if one small word could change everything? That word is “yet”.
What is the Power of Yet?
The concept of “yet” comes from a growth mindset perspective—the belief that abilities, skills, and understanding can develop over time with effort and guidance. Adding “yet” to statements of doubt turns them from declarations of defeat into possibilities for growth:
- “I can’t manage my triggers – yet.”
- “I don’t know how to rebuild trust – yet.”
- “I haven’t found my confidence – yet.”
It’s a reminder that recovery is a process, not a fixed state. It allows us to honor where we are while holding space for where we can go.
How “Yet” Empowers Recovery
Recovery often involves rewiring deeply ingrained thought patterns. The power of “yet” can:
1. Reduce Shame: Struggling with relapse, urges, or setbacks doesn’t mean you’ve failed—it just means you’re not there “yet”. This perspective focuses on self-compassion instead of self-criticism.
2. Encourage Persistence: Recovery is rarely linear. Adding “yet” keeps us motivated to continue trying, even when progress feels slow or nonexistent.
3. Promote Hope: Hope is a powerful ally in recovery. The word “yet” inherently implies that change is possible, even if it’s not immediate.
Practical Ways to Embrace the Power of Yet
1. Rewrite Your Self-Talk: Notice when you’re making definitive negative statements about yourself or your recovery. Reframe them with “yet.”
– Instead of “I’ll never heal from this,” try “I haven’t healed from this yet.”
2. Set Small Goals: Break your recovery journey into manageable steps. Celebrate each achievement, no matter how small, as part of getting closer to your “yet.”
3. Surround Yourself with Encouragement: Share your “yet” moments with supportive friends, family, or peer recovery groups. Sometimes others can see our potential before we do.
4. Journal Your Progress: Write down where you are now and where you’d like to be. Reflect regularly to see how your “yet” evolve into accomplishments.
My “Yet” Story
When I began my recovery journey, I often said, “I’ll never feel like myself again.” That hopelessness weighed me down until my therapist challenged me to add “yet” to the end of that sentence. Slowly but surely, I started to believe in the possibility of change. Today, while I may not be the same as I once was, I’ve discovered a version of myself that is authentic, resilient, and thriving. It all started with “yet.”
Keep Moving Forward
The power of “yet” reminds us that recovery is not about perfection; it’s about progress. For every woman on this path, know that wherever you are, you’re simply not there *yet*. Keep moving, keep growing, and trust in your ability to transform into the best version of yourself.
What “yet” are you working toward today?
Let’s keep building a life we don’t want to escape from…
Your sister in recovery,
Christina
Copyright: Christina Cook, The Broke Girl Society / BGS Media, LLC